Submissive BDSM Play Partner Checklist

Checklist and introduction by Tammad Rimilia. Format modified.

This checklist should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient/target of the activity.


 Activity
Experience
yes/no
Willingness
No or 0-5
Notes & Nuances
Abrasion
     
Age play
     
Anal sex
     
Anal plugs (small)
     
Anal plugs (large)
     
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
     
Animal roles
     
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
     
Aromas
     
Asphyxiation
     
Auctioned for charity
     
Ball stretching
     
Bathroom use control
     
Beastiality
     
Beating (soft)
     
Beating (hard)
     
Blindfolds
     
Being serviced (sexual)
     
Being bitten
     
Boot worship
     
Bondage (light)
     
Bondage (heavy)
     
Bondage (multi-day)
     
Bondage (public, under clothing)
     
Branding
     
Breast/chest bondage
     
Breast whipping
     
Breath control
     
Brown showers (scat)
     
Bruises
     
Cages (locked inside of)
     
Caning
     
Castration fantasy
     
Catheterization
     
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
     
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
     
Chains
     
Chamber-pot use
     
Chastity belts (short term)
     
Chastity belts (multi-day)
     
Chauffeuring (driving)
     
Choking
     
Chores (domestic service)
     
Clothespins
     
Cock rings/straps
     
Cock worship
     
Collars (worn in private)
     
Collars (worn in public)
     
Competitions (with other Subs)
     
Corsets (wearing casually)
     
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
     
Cross-dressing
     
Cuffs (leather)
     
Cuffs (metal)
     
Cutting
     
Diapers (wearing)
     
Diapers (wetting)
     
Diapers (soiling)
     
Dilation
     
Dildoes
     
Double penetration
     
Electricity
     
Enemas (for cleansing)
     
Enemas (retention/punishment)
     
Enforced chastity
     
Erotic dance (for audience)
     
Examinations (physical)
     
Exercise (forced/required)
     
Exhibitionism (friends)
     
Exhibitionism (strangers)
     
Eye contact restrictions
     
Face slapping
     
Fantasy abandonment
     
Fantasy rape
     
Fantasy gang-rape
     
Fear (being scared)
     
Fisting (anal)
     
Fisting (vaginal)
     
Flame play
     
Following orders
     
Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...)
     
Foot worship
     
Forced bedwetting
     
Forced dressing
     
Forced eating
     
Forced homosexuality
     
Forced heterosexuality
     
Forced masturbation
     
Forced nudity (private)
     
Forced nudity (around others)
     
Forced servitude
     
Forced smoking
     
Full head hoods
     
Gags (cloth)
     
Gags (inflatable)
     
Gags (phallic)
     
Gags (rubber)
     
Gags (tape)
     
Gas masks
     
Gates of Hell (male)
     
Genital sex
     
Given away to another Dom/me (temp)
     
Given away to another Dom/me (perm)
     
Golden showers
     
Gun play
     
Hairbrush spankings
     
Hair pulling
     
Hand jobs (giving)
     
Hand jobs (receiving)
     
Harems (serving w/other subs)
     
Harnessing (leather)
     
Harnessing (rope)
     
Having food chosen for you
     
Having clothing chosen for you
     
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
     
Head (recv fellatio/cunnilingus)
     
High heel wearing
     
High heel worship
     
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
     
Hoods
     
Hot oils (on genitals)
     
Hot waxing
     
Housework (doing)
     
Human puppy dog
     
Humiliation (private)
     
Humiliation (public)
     
Hypnotism
     
Ice cubes
     
Immobilization
     
Infantilism
     
Initiation rites
     
Injections
     
Intricate ( Japanese ) rope bondage
     
Interrogations
     
Kidnaping
     
Kneeling
     
Knife play
     
Leather clothing
     
Leather restraints
     
Lectures for misbehavior
     
Licking (non-sexual)
     
Lingerie (wearing)
     
Manacles & Irons
     
Manicures (giving)
     
Massage (giving)
     
Massage (receiving)
     
Medical scenes
     
Modeling for erotic photos
     
Mouth bits
     
Mummification
     
Name change (for scene)
     
Name change (legal, permanent)
     
Nipple clamps
     
Nipple rings (piercings)
     
Nipple play/"torture"
     
Nipple weights
     
Oral/anal play (rimming)
     
Over-the-knee spanking
     
Orgasm denial
     
Orgasm control
     
Outdoor scenes
     
Outdoor sex
     
Pain (mild)
     
Pain (medium)
     
Pain (severe)
     
Persona training (in scene)
     
Personality modification (RL)
     
Phone sex (serving Dom)
     
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)
     
Phone sex (commercial provider)
     
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
     
Piercing (permanent)
     
Plastic surgery
     
Prison scenes
     
Prostitution (public pretense)
     
Prostitution (actual)
     
Pony slave
     
Public exposure
     
Punishment Scene
     
Pussy/cock whipping
     
Pussy worship
     
Riding crops
     
Riding the "horse" (crotch torture)
     
Rituals
     
Religious scenes
     
Restrictive rules on behavior
     
Rubber/latex clothing
     
Rope body harness
     
Saran wrapping
     
Scarification
     
Scratching - getting
     
Scratching - giving
     
Sensory deprivation
     
Serving
     
Serving as art
     
Serving as ashtray
     
Serving as furniture
     
Serving as a maid
     
Serving as toilet (urine)
     
Serving as toilet (feces)
     
Serving as waitress/waiter
     
Serving orally (sexual)
     
Serving other doms (supervised)
     
Serving other doms (unsupervised)
     
Sexual deprivation (short term)
     
Sexual deprivation (long term)
     
Shaving (body hair)
     
Shaving (genital hair)
     
Shaving (head hair)
     
Skinny-dipping
     
Sleep deprivation
     
Sleepsacks
     
Slutty clothing (private)
     
Slutty clothing (public)
     
Spandex clothing
     
Spanking
     
Speech restrictions (when, what)
     
Speculums (anal)
     
Speculums (vaginal)
     
Spitting
     
Spreader bars
     
Standing in corner
     
Stocks
     
Straight jackets
     
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
     
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
     
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
     
Strapping (full body beating)
     
Suspension (upright)
     
Suspension (inverted)
     
Suspension (horizontal)
     
Supplying new partners for Dom
     
Swallowing feces
     
Swallowing semen
     
Swallowing urine
     
Swapping (with one other couple)
     
Swinging (multiple couples)
     
Tampon Training (in ass)
     
Tattooing
     
Teasing
     
TENS Unit (electrical toy)
     
Thumbcuffs (metal)
     
Tickling
     
Triple penetration
     
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
     
Uniforms
     
Including others
     
Vaginal dildo
     
Verbal humiliation
     
Vibrator on genitals
     
Violet Wand (electrical toy)
     
Voyeurism (watching others)
     
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
     
Video (watching others)
     
Video (recordings of you)
     
Water torture
     
Waxing (hair removal)
     
Wearing symbolic jewelry
     
Weight gain (forced)
     
Weight loss (forced)
     
Whipping
     
Wooden paddles
     
Wrestling
     
Willingness quick-key:

?    Don't understand this item.
*    I will do with current sex partner only.
NO    I WILL NOT DO that item under ANY circumstances (a hard limit).
0    No desire, don't like, will permit if special to Dom (a soft limit).
1    Don't want to do, but will.
2    Willing to do, but has no special appeal.
3    Usually LIKE doing, on an irregular/occasional basis.
4    LIKE doing, would like it on a regular basis.
5    WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.


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This checklist started in 1996 with a much smaller checklist which was found at the marvelous SFPSE site http://www.sexuality.org/ftpsite.html at The University of Washington, specifically http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/checklst.txt, and then greatly expanded.

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© Master Kelly
2002 - 2007